Hello and welcome to another discussion! As usual this year, I’m linking this to the Discussion Challenge – which I won already, by the way (my goal was to write at least 13 discussions and I passed that last month)! Go check out the other posts – there are always great bookish discussions to be found in the linky.
Today, I want to talk to you about friends. I know that’s a very broad topic but I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. And I want to know: where did you meet most of your friends? Are they mostly college friends or coworkers? Or are you friends with totally random people?
During my high school and university years, the vast majority of my friends were people I also went to school with. So we were stuck together in the same classroom (or school, at least) every day, we had breaks together and all – but we also saw each other after class and partied together and so on. However, once the classes ended – not just for the summer, but once we graduated – people drifted away. It made even more sense after university because most of my group of friends didn’t even live in Ljubljana (where our university is situated) and they returned home, either to their parents’ houses or to start families of their own. And we… drifted apart.
Now, I have a sort of motley crew of friends from different stages of my life. I’ve known two of my best friends since we were seven (we went to primary school together), I have one friend left over from high school – and two ladies from the university that I see on a regular basis. Then there’s an editor friend, some friends I met through my husband, and my brother and my cousin, who I’m lucky to have because you can’t always count on family also being friends. It’s a small number of people, really, but they’re incredibly important to me. I’ve kept in contact with my other friends, of course, but we mostly write emails to each other once or twice a year.
It’s harder to make friends as an adult, I think. My situation is very unhelpful for meeting new people because I’m a freelance translator and work from home, where I’m alone most of the time. It’s a perfect arrangement for me, I love it, but I have to make a conscious effort to set dates with my friends each week so I socialize enough. I’m very lucky that my husband is also my best friend, I don’t know what I’d do if that wasn’t the case.
Blogging opened up a new world for me. I now have several… friends, whom I’ve never even seen in person, that I talk to more regularly than I do with some of the people I count as my closest acquaintances. Either through comments, Twitter, or emails – these newfound relationships are just as important to me as the friends I get to meet in person, perhaps because we talk about books a lot, which is enormously important to me (and I don’t get to discuss them with my other friends because they don’t read as much or their tastes are different).
Anyway, this all means that I’m always happy to read books that feature good friendships. You know I love reading about romantic relationships but I’m always on the lookout for a good friendship book. Somehow, good friendship books are harder to find than good romances – which is weird if you consider that most people have fewer lovers (or true loves) than friends (I’m not being judgy here, you can have as many lovers as you want).
Here are some of my favourite bookish friendships:
- Harry, Ron, and Hermione – okay, so I know Ron and Hermione end up together but for the majority of the series, these three are just really great friends.
- Agnieszka and Kasia – from Naomi Novik’s Uprooted – Agnieszka is driven by her love for her friend and I really enjoyed reading about their relationship. I also liked that Novik wasn’t afraid to write about the ugly aspects of such a friendship (the jealousy, the resentment).
- Locke and Jean – from The Lies of Locke Lamora by Scott Lynch – I know most people refer to their relationship as a “bromance” but a) I hate this word; and b) unless you saw something I didn’t (and believe me, I know this book almost by heart by now), Locke is horribly in love with Sabetha and I won’t spoil you for Jean but he loves Locke like a brother. They’re great.
- Jennifer and Beth – from Rainbow Rowell’s Attachments – this has become one of my favourite books of all time (I think I say this a lot when it comes to Rowell’s books). Their friendship is the ordinary kind – they’re coworkers – but I loved their interactions and how they came to trust each other.
- The Thirteen – from Empire of Storms by Sarah J. Maas – I haven’t reviewed this yet but one of the bright points of this book are the close bonds between the Ironteeth witches of Manon Blackbeak’s coven. I love how far they go to protect one another and it’s their stories I was most excited to read.
- Karou and Zuzana – from Laini Taylor’s Daughter of Smoke and Bone – there is something to be said for a friend who will follow you into another world. I really liked their private jokes and loyalty.
- Corrine and Ada – from Iron Cast by Destiny Soria – this is a very new addition to the list (it releases in October), but I really, really enjoyed it. Their friendship is tested several times and I think they’re both fantastic characters. Give this one a try (I’ll be reviewing it soon).
A lot of ladies on this list, huh?
Tell me, which bookish friends would you add to this list?
Who are your friends?
I’d love to hear from you! :)